How I Keep my S*** Together

How I survive everyday as a working mom! Coffee, pilates, and baby snuggles plus prayer and perspectiveBeing a working mom is hard. I think that every mom feels guilty about saying it out loud, but there are definitely days that I feel like I am barely able to keep it all together. Somehow we all find a way to push through and keep going for our families.

While I was doing research before writing this blog, I posted on Facebook asking for content suggestions. A dad friend suggested “Topic #1: How do you survive??”  and I responded “Coffee, Pilates, and baby snuggles.” It may sound silly, but those three simple things really do help keep me mentally healthy. Two more important ways that I keep myself motivated are prayer and perspective.

Let me tell you about the roller-coaster morning that I had.

This morning I took Peanut to my cousin’s house because our babysitter is unavailable this week, and he was kind enough to agree to help us out. I drove the half hour to his house without feeling put out because I was grateful that I have family members who are able to take care of my son for me. As I was parking, I realized that I never packed the container of formula that was sitting on our kitchen counter. Of all of the things to forget, formula was the worst one. Anything else, my son could do without or my cousin would have for his own baby.

I kept moving as I thought about what to do next, but the only option was to go get formula. I went into action mode – I quickly explained to my cousin, asked where I could go, and hastily handed him my baby before running out the door. I drove the short distance to the nearest grocery store. I went to the baby aisle, and did not find formula! I felt defeated and frustrated that I could do something so stupid as forget formula for my infant. I texted my husband to call his dad about dropping some off, and then asked a cashier just to make sure that I was looking in the right spot.

She told me that the store carries formula, but they have to keep it behind the counter because it is so frequently stolen. Talk about putting things into perspective.

I purchased the formula, took the container back to my cousin’s house, kissed my son, and left for work. I work in a very casual, understanding office, so I knew that running late was not a big deal. In the end, I made it to work just a few minutes after my start time and everything is just fine.

 

A few times during this experience, I really wanted to just cry. I started to think about how I wouldn’t have to deal with things like this if I didn’t have to work. Sometimes, I really resent that I don’t have the option to stay at home with my son. Then I remind myself why I work so hard. I work hard so that my family can have the materialistic things that help us to live well. I work hard so that we can afford to take trips and make memories down the road. Most importantly, I work hard to set a good example for my son. I want to teach him that hard work and faith will be rewarded.

All of that being said, we live on a very tight budget, and sometimes I feel like all of our hard work isn’t being rewarded the way that it should be. The truth is that we live on a very tight budget because we have been blessed enough to take care of ourselves well. We own our home, we own our cars, we are paying for our educations. All of those things are much more important to us than having extra money to spend. The most important blessings that we have are the things that we didn’t have to buy – our family, our health, the ability to work and be self-sufficient as a family. God has taken care of us through each other, and sometimes it is the bad experiences that remind me of that.

In the scheme of things, having to run to the store to buy an extra container of formula is not a big deal. At least I am able to buy formula. I am frugal about my grocery budget, but I have always been able to feed myself and my family. That in itself is a wonderful gift from God. I thank Him everyday for my home, my family, and our health. Tonight I will thank Him for the ability to put food in front of my family without having to even think about stealing from the grocery store.

So that is how I kept my s*** together today.

I wasn’t a perfect mom, but I took care of my son. While I was at work, I took care of him by making sure that he was with someone who loved him. I know that Peanut won’t remember the day that I forgot to take formula to the babysitter’s house. I know that he won’t remember the day that I accidentally washed the dishes with hand soap (yesterday…) or the days that the house wasn’t as clean as I would like it to be. I hope that what he remembers is how much his mom and dad love him and how hard we work to take care of our family.
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66 thoughts on “How I Keep my S*** Together

  1. We’ve all been there! This last week I did something similar.

    My little one wouldn’t stop crying. The shrill something’s-really-wrong kind of cry. And he never cries for anything but hunger. So I fumblingly call the doctor and they said they can get him in in just about 20 minutes. I live 18 minutes away so I run out the door, grabbing the baby and the diaper bag. Baby is still wailing the entire drive, but finally passes out as we pull into the parking lot. According to the doctor, nothing was wrong (of course), so I decide to take him to daycare. On the way, he starts crying again, and I realize he’s got to be getting hungry now. I look and there are no bottles or formula in the diaper bag at all. We ALWAYS have it pre-stocked for situations just like this, but somehow didn’t. So I drop him off at daycare, starving and in a bad mood. I take him out of his car seat to see he also peed through his entire outfit. And the diaper bag didn’t have a backup outfit, either. Mom of the year.

    Ugh.

    But I’m glad it all worked out for you! Seems it always does, no matter how stressed we are at the time!

    • Thanks for sharing! Those days are definitely hard, but you are right when you say that it always works out in the end. 🙂

  2. Thanks so much for taking the time to link up to #sharewithme – I always think we just have to make it up as we go along and all we can do is our best on any given day. Hope you will link up again 🙂

  3. I was a working mom until my youngest child was 7, I remember multi tasking every thought and being frazzled and tired all the time. It is a lot to handle. Being a stay-at-home mom is a blessing, but it is a definite lifestyle choice and while I can’t have a vacation for a long time or have a big savings account, you can, there is nothing wrong with that. I think children benefit from both ways of living and are just as happy and loved. I wish I could have been home when my children were babies but I knew they were well taken care of and that was a blessing in itself. Thank you for sharing this post in the All for mamas Link Party Week 3 #allformamas. I will share this post on the facebook group page, my page, as well as pinterest and twitter

    • I’m sure that it only gets harder when you add additional babies into the mix! You are right – as long as a child is loved, the rest is just a lifestyle choice.
      Thanks for stopping by and sharing. 🙂

  4. Expectations are high on all moms , especially working moms.I’m I think we as moms put too much pressure on ourselves. We have to cut ourselves some slack. I’m a stay at home parent, did I let my 3 year old and 14month watch more than 2 hours of T.V. today, yes, oops. But tomorrow is a new day and I will do better. Thanks for sharing your authentic story! I think the more we share stories that are real, the more we can see we are all just trying to do our best for our families. Cheers!

  5. This is gorgeous. I am so with you there – I often forgot things when I was working full time. I once turned up at my mum’s without his coat, once without his shoes! It is so hard to remember everything. But you are rocking it lovely and like you say, you are doing what you do for him 🙂 Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

  6. As a mom of two I have come to realise that keeping it together is a constant battle. As mothers we have to wear every hat now, working professional, doting mother, wife, friend, homemaker’. It is time that women were celebrated and empowered for all that they contribute to society!

  7. In the end we all have to realize what a big problem vs a small one. What we can change and what we can’t and most importantly saying No to things even when it makes someones elses life harder.

    • Thank you for the encouragement and for stopping by! Perfection comes in many forms, and I think one of those is love.

  8. I always end up forgetting my son’s sippy cup or didn’t refill his diaper bag with diapers. We just have to remember we are only human. Things happen we just have to breathe and get through them.

    • Everyone tries to tell you how hard being a parent is…I don’t think it’s harder than I expected…just different than you could imagine. Thanks for reading!

    • I think we could all use a little more internet honesty! It’s not easy like some people make it look to be. Parenting is absolutely wonderful…and absolutely challenging.
      Thanks for reading.

    • I think we all have those days. They are rough…but we find a way to make it through.
      Thanks for reading!

  9. I’m not a parent, but I can only imagine how difficult parenting (rewarding of course) it can be. But you’re doing great in giving your child a great home and love.

  10. We have all been there and had days where they have just gone to pot but like you said we are lucky because we can feed our family, keep them warm and give them a lot of love – they are the most important things to consider. Great post #triumphanttales

  11. We beat ourselves up on a daily basis about the things we do wrong but don’t praise ourself enough for the things we do remember to do. Sounds to me like you’re doing an awesome job. Thanks so much for linking up to #TriumphantTales, we’d love to have you back next week 🙂

    • It is so true! Sometimes you just have to look back and be thankful for what you do have.
      Thanks again for stopping over. 🙂

  12. its horrible to think people are so poor they have no choice but to steal formula, when we were in college Hubby worked at a shop and saw a woman stealing nappies but let he walk out as the look on her face showed her desperation. Things like that put a bad day or week in our parenting life into perspective!
    Thank you for linking up to #TriumphantTales. I hope to see you back tomorrow

    • I can’t imagine being at that point. 🙁 I love that the diapers rewards apps will let you donate your points to provide diapers for families who can’t afford them.

  13. Oh we have all been there, and the key thing is to remember these little things we beat ourselves up about are things that our children won’t even know have happened! #bigpinklink

  14. In june I’m going to try to do more posting to my facebook page. I’m going to start by sharing blog posts like yours. I’ll be to sure to tag you when I share it. Hope all is well and thanks again for posting this to the FanDayFriday Link party a few weeks ago!

    • Hi Patty. Thanks for stopping by and for helping to share! I would love to connect more on social media. 🙂
      Let me know how I can help you out.

  15. You’re also setting a wonderful example! I’m glad you have a flexible office and lovely family to help you out. Very sad that people have to steal formula to feed their babies. Thanks for joining us at the #bigpinklink this week.

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