10 Things That Suck About Being a Working Mom (Plus 6 Things that Rock)

This post will cover the best and worst things about being a working mom. 10 things that suck, and 6 things that rock. I love that our society is supportive of the mom bosses in our work force. It’s great that women have the opportunity to have a career and a family. Some women really love doing both and would be absolutely miserable if they felt forced into being stay at home moms. In the interest of honesty – I am not one of those women. Whether you are a career-driven lady or are just working to pay the bills, I think that we can all agree that there are things about being a working mom that suck.

Here is my list of 10 things that suck about being a working mom. To me, the things that suck are obvious. I try to stay positive and remind myself why I work. So to balance out the negative, I also included my list of 6 things that rock.

10 Things That Suck About Being a Working Mom

1. Needing more time in the day

Between work, running errands, feeding the family, trying to stay fit, and trying to keep our house relatively clean, there is really not enough time in the day to do much else. I try to spend time with my husband and son at night, but it’s always at the expense of whatever chore I feel like I should be doing instead. When you throw sleep into the mix, there really is no way to do it all.

2. Missing baby

I think this is a pretty obvious one. When I am at work, I miss my son. I know that he is well taken care of, but I miss the days when I was able to take the time to play with him and just enjoy his company.

3. Pumping

Breastfeeding becomes much harder when you are not able to spend the days with your baby. For me, the challenge of breastfeeding as a working mom was just too much, and I wasn’t able to keep going. You can read more about that here. Either way, I don’t think that any moms enjoy taking that much time out of our work days to pump. Pumping is the one thing on this list that literally sucks.

4. Not being able to take care of the house

I have tried to come to terms with the fact that my house is just never as clean as I wish it could be. I have found that breaking my chores into small daily lists makes it much easier to stay on top of the minimum things that need to be done. The more detailed cleaning activities just don’t happen as often as I would like them to anymore.

5. Being distracted at work

Does anyone else suffer from terrible mom brain at work? I have no attention span for anything anymore! As soon as I try to get into a new work task, my mind goes to the grocery list or my todo list when I get home. Focusing has become a ridiculous challenge in itself!

6. Paying for childcare

According to Time.com, the average cost for one child at a childcare center in the US is $196/week. That adds up to $10,192 per year – that is definitely not a small amount of money! It’s hard to feel motivated to work when such a huge percentage of my income just pays for me to go to work.

7. Planning for the unexpected

When you’re a mom, you are always ready for the unexpected, right?? What happens when your child gets sick, but you have to go to work? What about when your furnace stops working in December and someone has to be home for the repair man? Things pop up, and trying to take care of these things around your work schedule can be a pain in the butt.

8. Getting ready for work

Speaking of the unexpected, mornings with kiddos can be rough. You can have the greatest most efficient routine down to the minute, and then one day your baby’s sleep schedule changes. Just getting out the door in the morning can ruin my whole day some days.

9. Scheduling appointments

In addition to the unexpected doctor visits, your whole family will have routine appointments to get to. Most doctors offices, dentists, eye doctors, etc, are only open during regular office hours – there goes your PTO.

10. Not having any downtime after work

Before my son was born, I would get home from work and have some time to relax. Now, I get home, feed us all, squeeze in some chores, and then watch some TV while chasing him around and trying to have a conversation with my husband. On bath nights, we don’t even get to the stressful TV watching. By the time that we get the baby to bed, I am ready to sleep myself!

 

 

6 Things that Rock About Being a Working Mom

1. That smile you get when your child is excited to see you

As much as it sucks to leave your baby, that feeling of excitement that comes when you walk in the room is priceless. I get it from my son when I get him out of bed in the morning and when I pick him up from the babysitter’s house after work. That smile is the best part of each day.

2. The extra income

Obviously, the extra income is a nice perk. Taking care of a little one comes with added costs, and unfortunately, single income households are few and far between these days. Hopefully your income is able to help relieve some financial stress from your family.

3. Your own sense of accomplishment

When you’re a parent, you take pride in every small accomplishment that your child makes. At the same time, it can be hard to find a sense of accomplishment outside of your child. Having a job gives you goals and accomplishments of your own.

4. Time to yourself

It seems funny that going to an office full of people will feel more like alone time than the time spent at home with just your kiddo. There’s just something to be said about the ability to go to the bathroom without having to plan for someone else’s life while you are in there.

5. Adult interaction

On the opposite side of getting alone time, social interaction is much more available at work than at home. We all love the company of our children, but an infant is just not the best conversationalist. Being around adults and being social can be a nice change.

6. Setting a good example

By going to work each day, you are setting a good example of work ethic for your children. Your little ones will see you go to work each day and know that going to work is a sacrifice worth making.

 

There you have it. Being a working mom can definitely suck sometimes, but there definitely benefits that go along with that. Thank God for coffee and good babysitters!

Fellow working moms – What is your favorite part of being a working mom? What sucks the most?

10 Things that suck about being a working mom and 6 things that rock. Checkout this post to read about the best and worst of being a working mother.

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67 thoughts on “10 Things That Suck About Being a Working Mom (Plus 6 Things that Rock)

  1. I like how you balance the crappy stuff with the good stuff. It does get a bit easier as the kids get older – they can do so much more on their own, which frees Mom up to get her own stuff together! Great post – I’m going to schedule this to share on my FB page tomorrow. 😀
    ~Jess

    • I love having my little baby, but he is a lot of work! Thanks for the encouragement, Jess. 🙂
      And as always thanks for sharing!

  2. Ive done it all -worked full time, stayed at home and currently, Im working part time. There is no easy fix I’m afraid but what I can tell you is that it changes as the children’s needs change. When mine were tiny I worked part time and then stayed at home. I loved it….until I got bored! So I went back to work and then worked full time. By this time, my children were in school so it became easier (although you have to be super organised!). Then the chidlren became tweens and teens and I really felt they needed me more so I was lucky in that I could work part time again. It’s a juggle and a struggle but my mums advice will always stay with me -You wont have your job when your old; your children will always be there though. Good advice. Good luck! #ThatFridayLinky

  3. I recently wrote a post about how insanely jealous I am of my partner, who is a SAHM. Like today, she will pick up the kids from school and head right to dance recital practice and get ready for the recital, which is tomorrow! I would love to be doing that. And all of your points are good ones! TY! #FabFridayPost

  4. Mornings, oh god mornings! Nothing worse than being a stressed mess before you’ve even left the house, I feel your pain. I work full time because I have to, but in an ideal world I’d drop to part time. If only the money would be enough, I think that would be the prefect balance for our family – getting all the good bits with less of the bad. That’s the dream, at least!
    #ThatFridayLinky

  5. I couldn’t agree more, it is such a difficult balancing act but like you have pointed out, there are some benefits – my little girl cries when I come back but it is a ‘i missed you cry’ as she’s only now 9 months old but my little boy who is three runs to me smiling and shouts I missed you and whilst it hurts, that smile will never get old. #ThatFridayLinky

    • I definitely understand why a lot of women don’t want to be stay at home moms! I think that is the number one reason right there.
      Thanks for reading. 🙂

  6. Hi Lexie, due to my son being autistic I’ve not always been a working Mum, but I have recently started work again (my husband works evenings) and juggling everything is not easy! My least favourite thing about being a working Mum is now getting the time to work out as I would like, I have yet to get into a proper routine, but I have a working out is going to have to take the place of bathroom cleaning! I don’t like feeling unfit! My most favorite thing has to be doing something for me ( and having a little extra money) and not being Mum for a short while!

    Thank you for linking up with the #MMBC.

    XX

    • Thanks for sharing your favorite and least favorite things, Deb! Finding time to workout is definitely a challenge. I opened my laptop to work out and am doing this instead right now. Oops. 🙂 I find that working out right when I wake up is the best way for me to be consistent.
      Good luck with setting into your new routine.

  7. Yes I agree getting that smile when you get home just melts your heart fab post Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

    • Yikes! My friend and former boss is Australian. I know that the cost of living there is much higher. I haven’t looked into parental leave or privileges there at all though. I would be interested to find out more!

  8. I have done all. Worked full time, Stayed at home full time and Now trying to work from home. All have its own merits and demerits. But the feeling being with adults and having your purse is all together a great feeling

    • I know many women who would not be able to handle the lack of adult interaction! Thanks for sharing your experience. 🙂

  9. I like the way you balance the good and bad so well. I have been both a working mum and sahm and both have their good and bad sides in my opinion. It is however easier to be a working mum once the kids are a bit older and you don’t feel like they depend on you so much. Thank you for linking up with #StayClassyMama

    • Thanks for stopping by. I love hearing from mamas who have done both. I know this can sometimes be a “grass is always greener” situation, so I try to stay positive. 🙂

  10. I really needed to read this today – I’m starting the discussions with my employer about returning to work after maternity leave and have been feeling really awful about it. I just don’t feel that either of us are ready at all and can’t bear the thought of leaving my son. Thank you for being honest, but also looking at the flip side; it’s made me think it might not be so bad after all. #HumpDayLinky

    • I was not ready for it…but I don’t think we ever are. It will be tough, but it is nice to get back to something “normal” after maternity leave. You will find your balance and make it work! Be tough and try to enjoy it. 🙂

  11. Hi Lexie, it not easy being a working mom! Thank you for the points you stated…But the smile on your kids face on seeing you home is precious.
    Thank you for sharing this.
    Blessings to you

    • It definitely helps to know what to expect! I hope you enjoy the summer with your little one. 🙂

    • I prefer it in the morning, but that smile is the best part of everyday. 🙂
      Thanks for stopping by.

  12. This post is fantastic! I have written so much about being a working mum but this nails absolutely everything. I love that you have outweighed it with the good. Brilliant 🙂 Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

  13. This is a great post! I love how you look at both sides of working! When I went back to work after my first baby, it was nice to have a lunch break and talk to grown ups! Now I’m at home with two and loving every minute!

  14. It’s lovely to read a post with the downs AND the ups included. I use my blog to help me think more positively about situations too – it gives me a chance to think through situations and come at them from a different angle. #blogcrush

    • I think it’s important to try to see both sides of things. What’s the point of only thinking about the negative?
      Thanks for stopping by!

  15. I totally agree with all of these! Being a working mom can be rough sometimes but it’s worthwhile. When my son is 20 and off at university I’ll have the career I’ve continued to build and to me that’s worth a lot.

  16. There are so many ups and downs to being a SAHM and a working mom. You have hit the nail on the head with your post! Being a parent is the most rewarding yet exhausting job on the planet! #globalblogging

    • That’s still a lot of other things to keep track of..even if you do have a decent schedule. Your little ones will appreciate everything that you’ve done for them!
      Thanks for stopping by. <3

    • That sounds like a nice amount of time to spend with your little! Good luck getting back into your career. 🙂

  17. With my first I ended up stopping breastfeeding altogether before going back to work. luckily with my second I didn’t go back so carried on for about 19 months. I remember those days of being a working mum, missing important things, getting home to a tired child I only spent an hour with before bed. I do miss the adult interaction a job brought though!

    #RVHT Thanks for linking up!

    • That was definitely the hardest part for me. Pumping took up all of my time both at work and at home. Once that stopped things got much, much easier.
      I agree though – missing out on things is very hard.
      Thanks for stopping by! 🙂

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