9 Things That I’ve Learned in 9 Months of Motherhood

Becoming a parent changes so many things! The beginning is overwhelming, but as you go, you learn a lot about yourself and how to be a good mom or dad. It is crazy to think that my Peanut is 9-months-old already! I feel like some days drag on forever, but the months have gone by without me even noticing. He has grown and changed so much in that time, and I feel like I have changed nearly as much. There are so many things about myself and my life that are different now than I would have expected. People say that you can’t really plan for how having a baby will change your family, and I now understand what they all tried to tell me.

Here are nine things that I have learned in my nine months of motherhood.

  1. Being a parent is just as hard as everyone tells you that it will be, and so much better than you can possibly imagine.

    • I recently wrote this in a baby shower book for our cousin. It was just what came out at the time, but I really think that it sums up my feelings about being a new parent. Being a parent is hard – everyone tries to tell you that. Once you experience it for yourself, it is unlike anything that you could have imagined before your child was born. All of the struggles that we go through on a daily basis are nothing compared to the joy of the smile on a baby’s face when mama or dada walks into the room.
  2. Having a baby really does change everything.

    • I know it’s cheesy, but my mind always goes back to the Johnson and Johnson commercial that says “having a baby changes everything.” I knew that he would change our home, our time, and your daily lives. What I didn’t think about was how much having a baby would change me. Everything that I do and think about everyday is just a little bit different than it was before.
  3. My family is priority number one.

    • Let me just add one thing here – God and my family are my number one priorities. This is something that has always been true for me. Now, it goes just one level deeper. I have my very own family to stake claim to. My husband and my son come first, and anything that I am excited for is even more exciting if I can share it with them.
  4. Getting a full 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep is underrated.

    • My son has slept through the night for a while now, and I am so very thankful for that! However, more often than not he will wake up for just a minute or cry out in his sleep. We are all able to go back to sleep right after, but the little interruptions do mess with my sleep cycles.
  5. There is a big difference between anxiety and worrying.

    • I have never been a worrier. I am the queen of efficiency and worrying is not efficient – it is wasting time thinking about things that you have no control over. Since my son was born, I have had a lot of anxiety. I get overwhelmed easily, and I have trouble calming down sometimes. There are things that I can do to help keep the anxiety under control, but unlike worrying, I can’t just tell myself not to feel anxious.
  6. I was not as calm as I thought that I was.

    • I always prided myself on being calm, level-headed, and flexible. These are the traits that made me a great stage manager! Now that I have to do everything on baby-time, my calmness has been taken to a whole new level. I am so much better at not letting things bother me than I used to be. I have very much had to let go of control over most situations.
  7. Babies do what they want, when they want.

    • Routines, milestones, schedules – all of those things are nice guidelines. It is important to remember that babies have their own plans for everything. They are little people with their own feelings and agendas. Somedays are smooth and other days getting things done is just a nightmare. This is where letting go of control comes into play!
  8. My house is just fine if it gets a little dirty.

    • Having a dirty or messy house stresses me out! This is definitely still true…however, I have a lot less time now to keep things clean. I have had to adjust my level of cleanliness to fit our new schedule and priorities. Things are usually a little dirty, but that’s ok. I would rather spend time with my Peanut than keep up with the housework.
  9. It’s ok to know your limits.

    • This is something that has been hard for me! I am the type of person who wants to do it all and do it all well. I recently had to turn down a job that I was really looking forward to because I knew that it would take too much time away from my family. I felt terrible, but the woman that I was planning to work with was beyond understanding! It is not fair to yourself or your family to take on more than you want to.


I want to hear from you – what is the biggest thing that you have learned from being a parent? Big or small, drop it in the comments below.

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55 thoughts on “9 Things That I’ve Learned in 9 Months of Motherhood

  1. Yes! I am about to have baby number four and all of this sums up Motherhood exactly. My biggest struggle was letting go of control over situations because when you have children things do arise out of nowhere and live throws curve balls all the time.

    • Letting go is hard isn’t it? I am so used to being in control of the situation with my stage management background! Children have plans and ideas of their own though, so letting go is key.
      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  2. I can relate! My house is so much messier since having kids! I used to scramble to clean up when people were coming over, but I actually have a babysitter in my house right now and there are toys everywhere! LOL! For anxiety, have you considered medication? It really can work wonders. #ablogginggoodtime

    • I am learning to let it go!
      I actually haven’t considered it much for myself – it’s never a bad idea to look into getting medical help though. Thank you for the suggestion and for stopping by. 🙂

  3. So very true! The whirlwind that is motherhood. It certainly puts us through our paces but yet the most rewarding thing ever 🙂

    Thanks so much for sharing with #MMBC. Have a lovely weekend and hopefully see you Monday x

  4. Being a parent is a huge learning curve that’s for sure Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

  5. I’ve just written a post about excepting that your baby is going to grow up! learning to let go is the biggest thing I am dealing with as a parent. They aren’t always babies, and that’s unfortunate. haha.

    • It feels like they are only babies for such a short time. 🙁 I am looking forward to more self-dependance and fun memories someday too though!

  6. Nobody can ever prepare you for the upheaval such a small person can bring to your life! I used to sit in the sand pit and think that I should be spending time cleaning the house. Time goes so quickly and now I have lovely sandpit memories to look back on, I don’t regret neglecting the housework at all!!


    • Thanks for sharing that, Catherine! I am trying to remember how much more important my son is than keeping things clean.
      Thanks for stopping by.

  7. Yes. To all of these! Especially the house being juuuust fine if it’s a bit dirty. Infact, it takes the pressure off. I feel like I’ve wasted lots of time cleaning and tidying in the past. I also agree that having a baby changes everything, no one can quite explain how much. Really enjoyed this post, it reminded me of my own little journey! #BigPinkLink

    • It’s such a different feeling than anything else that you cannot quite be prepared for it.
      Thank you for stopping by!

  8. Number 3 is the big one for me. When you become a parent, your whole life changes and you have to start prioritising other peoples needs before your own. It’s ok though, this is what being a mum is all about. My children are my number 1 priority and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I love being a mum 🙂

  9. Congratulations on 9 months old! It’s always an omg moment when you realise they have now been on the outside – just as long as the outside isn’t it? 🙂
    He’s adorable! 😀


  10. I feel the same. I think you have just written my post! It’s amazingly how a little person can change you in so many ways. Thank you so much for linking up with us on #FabFridayPost Big Hugs xx

    • It’s funny that everyone tries to warn you, but you just can’t understand until it happens. Thanks for reading. 🙂

  11. Yes, these are all so relatable! It really is true that although you know things will changed, and you envisage a life changed, the actual extent of it can never be described by anybody! You have to be living it, to fully understand! I agree about babies doing what they want, when they want. I spent hours of frustration trying to get my first to ‘fit’ with schedules outlined in books, but he was having none of it. I didn’t bother with the second baby-they both found a natural routine at around 7 months, and it was easier to let them do what they wanted until then!

    • Oh yes! I think structure is important, but trying to get your baby on a schedule just sounds like a whole lot of work! haha.
      Thank you for stopping by. 🙂

  12. Amen to this. I wrote a similar post when my son turned 2 a couple of years ago. Was really nice to reflect on how far I’d come and all that I’d learnt. Thanks for sharing with #GlobalBlogging

    • Sometimes I have moments where I cannot believe how much has changed in the last year or two!
      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  13. Being a parent is the hardest thing I have ever done, but definitely the most rewarding. I agree that you can never get enough sleep and there is so much that people don’t tell you!
    Thank you for sharing this with us at #TriumphantTales. I hope to see you back next week.

  14. I learnt a skill, does that count? The whole sleep when they sleep’ thing has lead me to hone a skill where if I need to get to sleep I just close my eyes and within a few minutes I’m gone. Nap time is precious and I couldn’t bear to lose even a second of potential sleep!

    #RVHT thanks for linking up x

  15. Completely agree it definitely changes you so much so you really do feel like a different person, a better more tired person lol. I am still getting used to getting everything ready to go out on weekends with the family, it takes me ages haha! Thanks for sharing with #globalblogging!

    • A better more tired person pretty much sums up motherhood. Haha.
      Leaving the house always takes me so much longer than expected. Maybe someday I will figure it out. 🙂
      Thanks for stopping by.

    • Aw, that’s such a great age. So much personality all of the sudden! Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  16. Being a parent is a total game changer! I think I’m learning to not to be too hard on myself and that I can’t do it all and that’s ok!
    Thanks for sharing your journey and linking up with us #FabFridayPost

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